Building vulnerability-based trust in teams

Building vulnerability-based trust in teams is essential for fostering openness, collaboration, and stronger interpersonal relationships. Here are methods and summaries of exercises designed to cultivate trust by encouraging vulnerability:

1. Personal Histories Exercise

Summary: Team members share personal and professional experiences to better understand each other on a deeper level. This exercise helps break down barriers and fosters empathy.

How to Conduct:

  1. Have each team member answer simple questions like:
    • Where did you grow up?
    • How many siblings do you have?
    • What was your first job?
  2. Encourage everyone to listen actively and avoid judgment.

Why It Works: Sharing personal information allows team members to see each other as individuals beyond their roles, creating a foundation for trust.

2. Two Truths and a Lie

Summary: Team members share three statements about themselves—two true and one false. Others guess which statement is false.

How to Conduct:

  1. Each participant takes turns sharing their three statements.
  2. The team discusses and guesses which is the lie.
  3. After the reveal, encourage conversation about the truths.

Why It Works: This lighthearted activity builds rapport by revealing personal stories and creating a fun, low-pressure atmosphere.

3. Strengths and Weaknesses Sharing

Summary: Team members openly share one strength and one weakness related to their work.

How to Conduct:

  1. Set the tone by having the leader or facilitator share their own strengths and weaknesses first.
  2. Go around the room, with each person sharing their strengths and areas for improvement.
  3. Discuss how the team can support each other in leveraging strengths and addressing weaknesses.

Why It Works: Acknowledging weaknesses demonstrates vulnerability and builds an environment where it’s safe to admit imperfections.

4. The Trust Battery

Summary: Adapted from The Culture Code by Daniel Coyle, this exercise helps assess trust levels within the team.

How to Conduct:

  1. Each team member rates their trust level with other members on a scale of 1 to 100 (like a “battery charge”).
  2. Discuss the reasons behind lower trust scores in a constructive way.
  3. Collaboratively identify ways to increase trust levels.

Why It Works: This method brings trust issues to the surface and creates actionable steps for improvement.

5. “What I Appreciate About You”

Summary: Team members give specific, positive feedback about their colleagues, focusing on what they value most about them.

How to Conduct:

  1. In pairs or small groups, ask participants to share something they appreciate about each person.
  2. Encourage specificity (e.g., “I appreciate your calm approach during stressful deadlines”).
  3. Optionally, have participants write down their appreciations for a lasting impact.

Why It Works: Acknowledging positive attributes fosters connection and goodwill.

6. “Failure Stories” Exercise

Summary: Team members share a story about a personal or professional failure and what they learned from it.

How to Conduct:

  1. Create a safe space by having a leader share their own failure story first.
  2. Each team member takes turns sharing their story.
  3. Discuss the lessons learned and how the team can support one another in future challenges.

Why It Works: Sharing vulnerabilities in the form of failures reduces fear of judgment and normalizes mistakes as part of growth.

7. Team Values Exercise

Summary: Team members collaboratively identify shared values and principles that reflect their culture and goals.

How to Conduct:

  1. Brainstorm individual values important to each member.
  2. Combine similar values into categories.
  3. Agree on a set of core team values and write them down for reference.

Why It Works: Aligning on shared values creates a sense of belonging and collective responsibility.

8. Lifeline Exercise

Summary: Team members map out significant events in their lives (personal or professional) on a timeline, sharing pivotal moments.

How to Conduct:

  1. Provide paper and markers or use a digital tool.
  2. Each team member plots their major life events (e.g., successes, challenges, turning points).
  3. Share lifelines in small groups or with the entire team.

Why It Works: It deepens understanding of each other’s journeys, fostering empathy and respect.

9. Empathy Mapping

Summary: Team members work together to understand each other’s perspectives by answering questions like:

  • What does this person think and feel?
  • What do they hear and see in their role?
  • What are their challenges and goals?

How to Conduct:

  1. Create empathy maps for team members (individually or collectively).
  2. Discuss the results openly, focusing on how the team can better support one another.

Why It Works: It encourages stepping into each other’s shoes, breaking down silos, and building trust.

10. Blindfold Exercise

Summary: A trust-building physical activity where one team member is blindfolded and guided by a partner through an obstacle course or simple tasks.

How to Conduct:

  1. Set up a safe space with minor obstacles (can be verbal cues only if remote).
  2. Pair team members and have one guide the other to complete the task.
  3. Switch roles to ensure mutual participation.

Why It Works: It emphasizes reliance on others, fostering trust and communication.

11. Anonymous Feedback

Summary: Team members provide anonymous feedback on what they value about their peers and what they think could improve.

How to Conduct:

  1. Use a tool like Google Forms to collect feedback anonymously.
  2. Share the positive feedback and areas for growth collectively or individually.
  3. Follow up with an open discussion on how to improve.

Why It Works: It helps address issues that team members may be hesitant to bring up openly, while also fostering appreciation.

12. Team Painting or Creative Workshop

Summary: The team collaboratively creates something (e.g., a painting or building a structure) without assigned roles, focusing on teamwork and adaptability.

How to Conduct:

  1. Provide materials for a group activity (remote tools like Miro for digital collaboration can also work).
  2. Let the team organize themselves to complete the task with minimal instructions.
  3. Reflect afterward on what worked well and what could improve.

Why It Works: It promotes trust by requiring collaboration in a non-work context.

Key Principles for Success

  • Psychological Safety: Ensure the environment feels safe and non-judgmental.
  • Lead by Example: Leaders or facilitators should model vulnerability first.
  • Regularity: Make trust-building exercises a continuous effort, not a one-time event.
  • Reflection: Always debrief and reflect on how the activity impacts the team dynamic.

Would you like help customizing one of these exercises for your team?